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It’s Thoughtful Thursday..an easy way to make a difference


Take a minute and think about someone who made a difference in your life.

Chances are you just smiled.

You remember how happy it made you, how it changed you or how loved you felt that they took the time to do something for you.

Was it a huge thing like Oprah did when she gave away those cars?  Or was it something on a smaller scale?  It might have even been something they did without  realizing they made an amazing impact on your life.

While we would all like to have the ability to do really BIG things most of us can’t give away cars or houses or fancy vacations.

If you go back to the first question and remember what first popped into your thoughts it probably wasn’t something big.  It was probably something much smaller and doable and yet it was still HUGE to you.

This past Monday I had my day all planned and it was going to be so productive.  I got up early, I ran, I cleaned up and I sat down to work.  My computer had different ideas about my day.  I spent all day Monday, some of Tuesday and will spend a little bit of today getting this one issue,that could not be ignored,fixed on my computer.

Monday was NOT a good day.  Fortunately I did not also have to suffer through “crunchy coffee”.  If you missed out on that adventure go here.

So after some mind bending hours in front of this blasted machine I took the dog out since his little dance could not be ignored . I got the mail and my day turned around when I found these:

 

Letters for Thoughtful Thursday

 

Neither one of these friends could have possibly known what kind of day I would have when their note arrived.  I tore into them, read them several times and now they sit on my desk and make me smile.

They made a difference by taking a few minutes to write me a note.  It wasn’t a car or a house or a vacation but it might as well have been because that is how huge it felt to me on Monday.

Want to make a difference?  Make a list ( either written or in your noggin) about all the ways you can turn someones’ day around.  A smile, a note, holding the door open, a compliment, a post it note on the steering wheel or someones’ desk.  A lunchbox note for someone who might never expect it.

FYI we never grow too old for lunchbox notes.

Watch it come back to you in so many great ways including just making you smile when you think of the person finding the note, seeing your smile or savoring your compliment.

Now you know the drill.  Go out and make it a Thoughtful One!! 🙂

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Dear TV police..please arrest ABC for theft

So I am an on again off again TV watcher.  After getting Netflix a few months ago I now understand the love affair between people and their DVR’s.  Commercial free veiwing is true bliss not to mention a real time saver.

That’s not what I want to write about though.  If there really was something like the TV police I would put everyone at ABC in jail for theft ….of several of my IQ points.

I was originally only going to write about one program but then this morning on Good Morning America they stole at least one more.  Plus they are aiding and abetting the dumbing down  of America.

It all started with the show “The Bachelor”.   Just to be clear I have been, in the past, a fan of this show. Also I realize that this is some people’s guilty pleasure and others watch it for pure comedic value.  It makes no difference why you watch it, no apologies needed.

I do have to share the very first time I saw an episode.  I was channel surfing many years ago ( at least 8 because it was in our old house) and I saw this girl sitting with a bunch of other beautiful women practically having a nervous breakdown and a guy handing out roses and I was like “What the???”  What is going on here?  This guy must be some kinda special.  Turns out he really wasn’t but I was hooked.

Fast forward to when Melissa Rycroft was on and officially ended my Bachelor watching days except for a glance here or there.  If you recall Melissa was the final choice except during the time filming had ended and the show actually aired the jerk changed his mind and secretly started seeing the runner up and humilated Melissa on the “After the Final Rose” show to which she replied “you bastard” which is my all time favorite line from the the Bachelor EVER.

He did Melissa a favor as she went on to bigger and better things and married a nicer guy.

So this season found Farmer Chris trying to choose his perfect soulmate and move her to a town in Iowa where everything is closed except of  course his farm which explains why he had to be on the Bachelor because there are no women in his town.

So a couple of things I have realized since my days of watching:

  • It’s not a show about finding love, its a competition
  • It’s so edited that even the nice girls come out looking like drama queens
  • They pick the girls so there is at least one girl who will get naked, one with a tragic background, more than several that can’t talk without swearing , a couple that can’t hold their alcohol or don’t know how to stop, the party animals, and the ones that cry ALL THE TIME..oh wait that was Chris  the Bachelor
  • Throw them all in one house with one guy as the prize and you have great ratings.

Please..I saw a part of the show with the final dates and the final show.  It was painful.  Painfully stupid.   And the only reason I watched was for some laughs from all the twitter comments.  I did however especially like the part where he shut the car door on the girl he didn’t choose ( she wasn’t sure she could move to a town where everything was closed..smart girl)  He shut the car door with an attitude and I’m sure mumbled under his breath “don’t let the car door hit you in the spanks on your way home”

Here is my favorite photo of Chris that was rampant on twitter:

Chris with an ear of corn

On top of that the shows’ brainiacs could not choose a new Bachelorette so instead there are two women who will get to compete for the position and the voters will be the guys competing for her love.  Seriously??  Walk away girls Walk away..and there goes another IQ point.

It must be rampant at ABC..the dumbing down that is ( except for Shonda Rhimes) because just the other day on GMA they were featuring Antonio Sabato Jr ( I think it was him or some other cute Latin hunk) who is now into decorating and fixing up homes.  So they decided to give Ginger Zee and Amy Rhoback a quiz ( where you hit the buzzer and yell out your answer) So here is the first question ( turned it off after this, couldn’t take it)

If you want to hang a picture in your home for a focal point on the wall and a splash of color, which of the following do you NOT need?

      A.  A stud finder

            B.  A hook and nail

C.  A trowel

And  Ginger Zee with way too much excitement hits her buzzer and yells out C.   OMG  and Duh.  So I shut it off. Then I had a thought.  That quiz was rigged because any college student knows a trowel  (or a shoe, book or spoon) can work as a hammer.  So the real answer is  D. All of the Above

Have to run, if you need to find me I will be applying for a job as an ABC executive overseeing the Bachelor.  Oh wait, I’m too smart for that.

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Thoughtful Thursday…Finding Love and Support in Unexpected Places

You just never know where you will find love and support these days.  If you have just one person in your life that offers unconditional love, that you can share frustrations and know it will be understood and not shared and you feel supported then consider yourself lucky.

Most relationships come with more than a little baggage.  It’s that baggage that can trip us up, frustrate us and keep us from feeling free to share, vent and cry when we really need to do just let it all out.

And yet I have found more than one person.  Actually a whole group.  When I joined the group I would have never expected it to become what it is today.  The group was started really out of a need to find a safe place to vent about a direct sales company that slowly and painfully closed it doors leaving many people without their main source of income and their retirement now non existent.  The answers that were coming from corporate often made no sense and when questioned in their online group you were either banned or your post was deleted.

A group was created and we all congregated to  make sense of the nonsense.  That was close to two years ago.  While the original purpose of the group has faded a bit we have gotten to know each other even though many of us have never met in person.

The person who founded the group had a few rules we all abide by one being no bad language.  Finally a place where I don’t have see the f-bomb as every other word. I really can’t remember the other rules but whether stated as an “official” rule or not there is always respect for one another, we never discuss politics or religion and we are by far one of the funniest group of women that ever existed.

It has become a very safe place to vent but more importantly a place to find support and very kind words.

And that is why I am honoring this group on Thoughtful Thursday.  It really became evident when my best friend shared the loss of her father.  While not unexpected it happened rather quickly and caught her family by surprise.   She shared her pain with the group and the support and kind words from those who had also walked this painful path and others words of support and love were amazing.

As a writer I can tell when words are sincere ( really I can) and there were never any words more sincerely written to support my friend.

Social media often gets a bad rap ( and for good reason) but in this group we have the freedom to share, support, love and laugh.  It is one of those rare things you find in life that restores your faith in all that is good.  I for one am grateful for all the love and support from these sincere women.

Now you know the drill..go make it a Thoughtful one!

P.S.  My spell check wasn’t working so all typos are my gift to you  🙂

Clouds

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Dear Monday, I am breaking up with you!

I usually love Mondays.  A brand new week and a fresh start.  A chance to do even better than last week which for me would be something as simple, time consuming as finding the top of my desk.

Not this Monday, nope not in the least.  Really really wish I could go back to bed and have a do over.

Speaking of my bed that is where it all started at 4am ( damn time change) and it went downhill from there.  I should have known if things started going wrong before my feet even hit the floor that the best idea would have been to just stay put but NOOOOOO  I had to get the ball rolling by actually getting up.

So here goes:

  • I wake up at 4m..a little too early ( the plan was 5am) grab some water and back to bed
  • what seemed like 2 minutes later it is 6:30am  Ok no biggie since I work for home ( not as glamorous as it sounds)
  • notice I have something in my eye that is really irritating
  • am blinded in the bathroom by the uber bright light bulbs Paul thought we absolutely needed and my eye waters even more
  • give up looking in my eye, head for coffee, eye is killing me
  • make coffee or so I thought, seated the filter wrong and I find myself straining my coffee so its less crunchy
  • eye is killing me, back to the bathroom..nothing but my finger in it
  • hot compresses and 2 hours later I find a teeny tiny piece of black something in it
  • only have almond milk for my crunchy coffee and discover it tastes like &^(*%$
  • have my intelligence insulted by Good Morning America ( my next blog post )

At this point I am 2 hours behind, my eye is still watering and I have a coffee headache, I need to get photos printed up for a project that HAS to go in the mail today and my computer got hungry and seems to have eaten them overnight.

Oh and our taxes are ready as in Uncle Sam wants more of our money.

If you need me I will be in bed blowing bubbles with my crunchy coffee watching ABC for more blog material..as in see next blog post.

 

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Happy Monday! NOT!!

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