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Oops…You were probably wondering why we are “Living Single While Very Married”

Nothing like writing a post in your mind and thinking you had published it.  Shhh don’t tell my kids or they will think its time to put Mom in a home.

I have been living and writing a bit about “Living Single While Very Married” for so long that I actually forgot to post WHY we are doing this crazy thing at this time in our lives.

Many thanks to my friend Barbara who has read many of my posts and finally asked “did you ever tell us why you are doing this?”  Thinking I had I quickly went through all my posts to find the right one to send her.  Except…..it is NOT there.

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So here goes..it is actually quite simple.  An opportunity came up for Paul for the “almost” perfect job.  It was with the same company, a promotion ( no raise but a promotion) and it was exactly what he wanted to do.  The “almost” perfect part is that it is not where we live. Not even close.

So I gave him my blessing to take the job while I kept the home fires burning.  Was I crazy?  A little.  However I am also a seasoned hair loss military wife, pretty independent and admittedly addicted to my incredibly adorable grandkids ( of course they are adorable) so it made sense for me to stay here.  There were other practical reasons.  Some financial, some because this is where we want to retire and just other reasons unique to us.

So there you have it.   We are almost two years into it and I can say that its not been the easiest thing I’ve done but not the hardest.  I have learned so much (who knew I could run a power washer?) and come to appreciate all the things Paul usually does without me noticing.  Replacing  burned out light bulbs has been an interesting one.  Turns out there is no “light bulb fairy” who magically replaces all the light bulbs.  Who knew?

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I’m a little behind in my posts about this.  I need to catch everyone up so please be patient.  At least now you know “why” we are living single while very married.  I have lots of adventures to share with you so hang on.

And as always..keep triing!

 

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Back to reality “Living Single While Very Married”

After a week of a little bit of normal (if you missed our little bit of normal read it here) we are back to reality.  Well almost back. It will take a few days to get use to the quiet house and to get back into my regular routine.

One thing that never changes. Saying “goodbye” sucks and it just seems to be getting worse. Yesterday as I was preparing the “last supper” I texted my best friend this:IMG_3114

So a few clarifications about this “screen shot”  My skills at this are not great, I couldn’t figure out how to edit it and even I have my limits as to when “happy hour” starts and it is NOT at 10:35 am..omg.( That is when I took the screen shot NOT when I sent the text!) Although my grandfather would argue you that point. He died at 92 yrs young so maybe he does have a point about when happy hour starts. 🙂 By the way “swill” is what my BFF claims is the kind of wine I drink. I am in no way a wine connoisseur and what can I say, I like cheap wine because cheap or expensive it all tastes the same to me!

Obviously Paul and I were both dreading the goodbye but we managed as we always do. Although we have an awesome airport that makes it easy to park and say goodbye in the airport it usually blood pressure works better for us if we do it curb side. It’s a little quicker and just a tad less painful..maybe.

Retail therapy might have been on the agenda if the stores were open at that hour but no such luck.

And just like that old phrase “don’t kiss and tell”  I don’t “Donut splurge and tell”  If one or two donuts jumped into my car as I passed the amazing donut place on the way home..well those are the only hitchhikers I am even tempted to pick up. Not that it happened. 🙂

My big “WIN” for this trip home is Paul realized it really was worthwhile to pay someone else to power wash the house. We both come from a long line of Do it Yourselfers (if that is even a word) but sometimes it just is smarter to get someone else to climb on the roof!

My other confirmation is that my guardian angel is alive and well and keeping me safe..more about that in another post.

In the meantime Max (the endless shedding dog) and I have some deer and rabbits to chase on our daily walk.

I will leave you with my new favorite saying from a print from Curly Girl Designs :

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and a photo from our quick trip to the beach!FullSizeRender (4)

Keep triing…it’s what makes life interesting!

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Living Single While Very Married..a little bit of normal

Since  I have been writing this series of blog posts it has not been written in real time for many reasons.  I have decided that this has  gotten a little too confusing for me and it would more fun to write it as it happens.  I have a bit of catching up to do to get everyone up to date but for now here is what is happening in “real time”.

Paul is home for a bit.  While we see each other every 6 – 8 weeks its not always here at home. So as things worked out this is his first visit home since January.

Six months since he has been here.  Six months since it hasn’t solely been my responsibility to lock up at night, walk the dog, fix things, or vacuum ( our dog sheds his entire coat once a day or so it seems)

Six months since “Hey what do you want for dinner”, “Want to take a walk?”, “Should we make it “Donut Sunday”? (Yum) “Need anything from the store while I am out?”

Believe it or not I even smiled when I saw his smelly workout clothes piled in the bathroom ( actually I smelled them before I saw them). I’m not going to lie, I smiled but that is one thing I really don’t miss.

Six months since my week-end didn’t really suck (not all of them suck but we find week-ends are especially hard when we are apart). The week-end didn’t suck not because we did anything special but just because we were together.

Nothing here is earth shattering or huge but it is all a little bit of normal, our normal.

I’ve learned so much through this experience and yet appreciating the things that often go unnoticed and yet are so valuable is the best gift ever.

So while he is here I’ll take a little bit of normal with a side of just being together all day everyday.

Of course watching him get “loved” by the grandkids never gets old. That doesn’t happen everyday so it’s always fun.
FullSizeRender (2)As always, keep triing..its what keeps me going!

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It’s Thoughtful Thursday! Are you guilty of this bad social media habit?

Social media has led me  to  develop some bad habits.  Shocking I know.  Let me just add those to the list of my less than desirable habits that even annoy me.  The top of that list is forgetting to close cupboard doors  (or any door for that matter).  I have been painfully reminded of this many times when I have banged my head into the open cupboard door.  My friends would say that explains alot 🙂

As far as social media goes I often fall into that mistaken belief that everyone I know and care about has seen my updates or photos.  This is especially true of big events ( weddings,baptisms, birthdays)

I KNOW lots of my family and friends are not on social media and yet I still forget.

If you are thinking “Well these friends and family just need to get with the times and jump onto social media”, remember that for some ( especially older relatives like my parents) it is just not going to happen.

AND social media is a poor substitute for a REAL phone call, a REAL piece of mail and a REAL printed up photo.

So here is where it gets really cool.  You can use social media to send a real printed photo postcard. Honestly I just discovered this so I am going to experiment with the different apps to see which ones I really like and in a week or two will share this with you.

One  app that I know is great is Kicksend.  It will send photos from your phone to a local place to be printed up and then you can just pick them up.  I have a couple of friends who use this on a regular basis after having their photos lost on their phones.  There is nothing worse than realizing you just deleted a photo you loved or your favorite two year old got your phone and cleared it for you.

Toddlers are pretty tech savvy these days.  Remember the 3 yr old who bought a car off of Ebay?

Watch this! And poof everything disappears!

Watch this! And poof everything disappears!

So if today is not the day to send a photo then  pick up the phone.  Let someone you love know you are thinking about them. If someone keeps popping into my thoughts I KNOW I need to talk to them.

The whole purpose of Thoughtful Thursday is to make it a day to remind you to connect with someone.

Now go make it a Thoughtful One!  And if you find an app you like please share!

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