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What’s my excuse…well let me tell you!

Can’t keep quiet about this and apparently lots of other people can’t either.  I wasn’t going to write about this especially today since I have a to-do list that would kill anyone and deadlines but I can’t keep quiet.

By now most of you have seen this photo:


Nothing wrong with the photo.  She has a rockin bod and three cute kids.  Great!

It’s the words.

Forget the old saying:

“Sticks and Stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me”

That’s the biggest load of donkey dung I ever heard.  I say that knowing  my primary love language is words of affirmation.  I love snail mail with handwritten notes and l love to write them.  So don’t ever tell me that words don’t matter.  They can fill your heart and devastate it as well.

People have accused this woman ( sorry no time to look up her name) of  “Mommy shaming”.  Yup although I doubt that was her intent. Still…mmmm.

Mommy guilt is the gift that keeps on giving.  One quick example:

On the radio yesterday was a female disc jockey talking about things Moms remember, how they mess up and giving words of encouragement to all Moms that we are doing the best we can.  You know what it brought to mind for me?

The time I TOTALLY forgot to send in treats to the pre-school for my son’s third birthday.  He came home wearing the birthday crown and my heart sank.

You know what is really bad about it?

He is 26 now and I  STILL feel bad about it.   ( not obsessing over it but I was surprised when that memory and those feelings came barreling back)

We don’t need to be reminded that it seems like every other Mom is super Mom and we don’t measure up.

As you all know I am all about fitness and eating healthy.   One of my favorite shows is “Extreme Weight diabetes Loss”  where one person is transformed in a year..yup takes a whole year.  And yes it’s TV and they have access to all kinds of resources.  BUT the weight and fitness issues are never just about over-eating and excuses.  There are traumas and limiting beliefs and issues that just keep them stuck not just excuses.

I have to admit I am not sure what other words she could have used that would have made it better.  Maybe she chose them to create a publicity storm much like Mylie Cyrus and twerking  although she claims she just wanted to inspire..really??

On Good Morning America, Sam Champion, the weather guy said he was inspired.

Not so fast buddy boy.  You can be inspired all you want but it is not the same for the Mom who:

  • longs for just one uninterrupted shower
  • got up with one child, went back to bed and then up with time asleep= zero
  • spent the night in the hospital with a critically ill child
  • would like just one thing in her house not to be sticky
  • would like to use the bathroom without an audience

Taking care of small children is a work-out in itself.  That being said I also think Moms need some time to call their own and some may choose to work out..others may just want a nap.  Its all okay.  Being a Mom has seasons to it.  Find your rhythm.

The other dangerous part of this is the husband who looks at it, looks at his wife and says..well she can do it why can’t you?  Granted these guys are jerks or just not thinking but still.

If this chick wants to inspire other Moms then do it in a kinder, gentler way and put on more clothes. I’m all about cute work out wear but this stuff is just for show.

Yup I’m really cranky about this.  I am curious…does this photo inspire you?


Running on the beach, Bo Derek made it look so easy!

If you are younger than I am you may not remember the movie “10” so the reference to Bo Derek may escape you.  Let me catch you up quickly.


This is how Bo Derek looked running on the beach in the movie.

And when I finally had the chance ( after several attempts) to run on the beach guess what??   I did NOT look like this!

Where is the laugh track when you need one ? 🙂

As with most things I have never tried, my imagination and reality had a disconnect.  First off I discovered ( in a blonde moment) that not all beaches are made for running.

I tried in Florida and my feet just sunk into the soft sand .  I got a better work-out trying to get my feet out of the sand than actually running on it which I quickly gave up.

So when we were in Myrtle Beach this past week-end and I saw  so many people running on the beach I knew my Bo Derek, and Chariots of Fire moment had come at last!myrtle beach

I headed out to the beach in the morning, the heat was rising, waves crashing, and wind blowing and I started running.  I am gliding along the perfect sandy surface that gave just enough to cushion my feet and started thinking we have got to move here, I want to run on the beach everyday, this is fabulous, this is easy and then I….


and my delightful run turned into a battle with the wind.  Running into it  slowed me down, left me gasping, sweating and a little discouraged and my thoughts of running on the beach every day disappeared.

So my Bo Derek moment ( minus the braids, the boobs and the fabulous body) had started in a spectactular fashion and ended like I end most of my runs..a sweaty mess.

And that is okay.

I would do it again except  I would only run one way and have Paul come pick me up at the end!  Just kidding..maybe.  And next time for sure I need to have “Bolero” on my Ipod.  Whatever works and gets us out there running, right?

Until next time..keep triing,


Liebster Blog Award

Thank you Carole MacLean for nominating my blog for the Liebster Award.

Carole currently blogs about her everyday trials, tribulations and triumphs as a wife, mother and entrepreneur at  Carole’s blog is a great read and will you inspire with her great writing and heart centered blog pieces.


About the Liebster Award:

The aim of the Liebster award is to spotlight up-and-coming blogs with less than 200 followers. There are no set rules for the award, but the guidelines are as follows:

  1. Copy and paste an image of the award onto your blog.
  2. Write a post on your blog to thank the person who nominated you and include a link to their blog.
  3. Nominate some blogs for the award. There is no rule for the number of blogs you nominate, but the general recommendation is at least 5 blogs.
  4. Answer the questions from the person who nominated you in your post.
  5. Ask at least 5 questions on your blog for those you nominated for the award to answer.
  6. In addition to the questions and answers, list at least 5 random facts about yourself.

Here are my answers to Carole’s questions:

What makes your heart sing?

So many things!  Being with my six grandkids.  They make me laugh!  Writing, running , biking and just being outside!  The sunrise and a beautiful  day are also at the top of my list!

What is your favorite movie?

“Under the Tuscan Sun”  hands down.  So many great quotes and lessons to be learned from that movie.

Where do you like to vacation?

I love the water but I also like adventure and exploring new my favorite place would be my next vacation!!  Which I hope will be Italy!

What is one of your favorite books?

I read alot of non-ficiton but just got back into fiction and my latest favorite is “Finding CeCe Honeycutt”  A great book about women supporting other women.  A few dark moments but for the most part a light read.

As for non-fiction I love “The Sound of Paper” or anything by Julia Cameron  Oh and Eat, Pray, Love was another favorite.

Which characteristic do you admire the most in people?

Overcoming adversity with grace and determination.

Five Random Facts about me:

I tie my shoes with bunny ears and can’t do it any other way.

I didn’t learn my right from my left until after I had kids and I still have to think about it.

I stood on my head so much as a child I rubbed a bald spot on my head.

My husband is the only guy I ever fell in love with 🙂  unless you count Tim in the fifth grade.

I didn’t start running until I was 47 and have completed 3 half marathons and see a marathon in my future.

My Questions for my nominee(s)

1.  What is your favorite thing to do everyday?

2. Which season do you like best and why?

3.  What is your favorite reward/treat that you save for special occasions ( activity, food or?)

4.  Are you a night owl or an early bird?

5.  What adventure to you dream about doing?

My Nominated Blogs:

I had a tough time because Carole stole at least one of my my favorite blogs have way more than 200 readers but here is one of my favs  AND if you know of a blog that qualifies, let me know and I will read it and probably nominate it!

Valerie Paul at:



It’s Thoughtful Thursday! Forgetting to be grateful for….

Happy Thoughtful Thursday!  Feel honored as I am postponing cleaning my frig to write this post.  You see cleaning my refrigetrator is one of my all time favorite things to do!


There is a lesson for me in gratitude in that statement.  As many of you know I sprained my wrist this week when I “gracefully” fell off my bike.  I stopped to get a drink of water, was lost in my thoughts and didn’t clip out of my pedals fast enough and over I went.


Since then I have found myself becoming aware of all the little things I take for granted.  So in addition to Thoughtful Thursday it is also Thankful Thursday!

Here is a short list:

  • padded bike pants ( saved my behind)
  • bike gloves
  • my friend who was home and came and got me
  • its a sprain and not broken ( phew)
  • motrin 🙂
  • healing quickly
  • my son being home to do things like cut up that yummy watermelon and basically do the things I can’t
  • the ability ( when this heals) to ( without pain) open toothpaste tubes, turn doorknobs, tramadol carry stuff, turn the ignition on my car, write…..

I could make a list a mile long with that last one.  Holy Cow!  Oh and it is my right wrist..and, of course, I am right handed.

So as I headed upstairs to my office to write this and avoid cleaning the frig I wondered “have I ever been grateful that I have a refrigerator to clean AND the ability to put food in it week after week?”

Of course not..I just looked at it as one those “necessary” pain in the butt things I have to do.

So today and hopefully everyday ( no promises from this very human person) I will be grateful for all those things, people and abilities that I have that I often just assume will always be there for me.

It is humbling to see how very rich I am in those people and abilities.

So go out and make it a Two for One Thoughtful AND Thankful Thursday!

I’m off to clean my frig with a smile on my face for a change!!



It’s Thoughtful Thursday! Oh the difference a few seconds and a smile makes!

Posting this a day early..Happy 4th of July!!

Everyone loves the idea of Thougthful Thursday ( sending REAL mail) but not everyone does it.

And guess what? I get it.  It is not the easiest thing to do in this fast paced, send the e-mail or text and get a response right away world…


It is so worth it and so appreciated.

So while I will continue to encourage you all to send a little piece of love via the mail there are also other things you can do that take seconds and will make your day and someone else’s a thoughtful one.

I made a list and feel free to add to it via the comments section.  Here goes:

  • Wave to everyone when you are walking, running, driving in your neighborhood or just out and about.  Doesn’t matter if you know them or not.  Just smile and wave.  It may be the only kind thing that person sees today.  I actually know someone who chose her neightborhood by how many people waved at her.
  • Hold the door for someone, hold the elevator, let someone into your lane of traffic
  • Be patient ( it is not their fault you are in a hurry)
  • Say something nice to someone.  I recently saw an older gentleman with his head down walking towards my favorite bookstore.  I held the door for him and complimented him on his bright green shirt.  The shift in his expression still makes me smile.  He brightened up, stood up straight and told me it was his favorite shirt.   The 10 seconds that took continues to pay me back.
  • Be nice to someone who rubs you the wrong way and you have to see often ( think co-worker, neighbor)  You don’t have to invite them to lunch but you may be rewarded with a better attitude from them and with people like this you may be the only one that offered them a hello or a kind word.
  • Stay off your phone when out and about  and pay attention to the world around you.  You will be rewarded with sights of flowers, random acts of kindness and opportunities to do the same.

I know there are tons more ways to make a make a difference in less than a minute of your time.  What may surprise you is the immensity of the reward YOU will receive.  A smile back, the amazing feeling that your kindness uplifted a stranger, the awareness and desire to do it daily and the reminder that there really are alot of good people out there that will pay your kindness forward or be there to uplift you when you need it.

Shared from my favorite running store Lucky Foot in Midlothian,VA

Shared from my favorite running store Lucky Foot in Midlothian,VA

Now go out and make it a thoughtful one!


My life as a Sitcom: Am I turning into Maxine? OMG

Lately I have been noticing alot of little things and they are all starting to irritate me.  Then I had an awful thought:

“Am I turning into one of those cranky people that complains all the time about the little things?

This picture came to mind:


Oh no!  After I tell you my thoughts and experiences please let me know if I now least in attitude the above image.

Here goes:

  • Twice I have been to restaurants where I practically had to beg for silverware.  What?  The waiter informed me they no longer had a sliverware wrapper.  I’m assuming this is a person and not a machine.  Still how hard is it to get silverware? ( and it wasn’t busy)
  • At the  second restaurant , after multiple requests for silverware,  I was handed just  a fork and a crappy one at that ( think camping silverware) . At that point I got up and got my own.
  • Vague Booking on Facebook also known as “I see you confused FB with your diary again”  These are just random posts that tell you nothing but are like cliffhangers begging for questions, sympathies, and concern as in “Do I have the courage to…..”  So we all have brain/facebook infarctions but when people do it ALL the time it is time to de-friend.
  • Why is my veterinarian’s office cleaner and better kept than my doctor’s office? ( oh wait I just looked at my vet bill..question answered)
  • Why are we fascinated with Kim Kardashian ( sympathies to her baby girl North by Northwest) and  Lyndsey Lohan ( sympathies to anyone who has to deal with her except maybe her lawyer who is making bank).


  • And why do we let people like Andrew Weiner ( aka let him show how photogenic his is) and Tiger Woods ( golf and PORN are his passions) get a second chance and we beat up on Paula Deen.  In all fairness I am not saying Paula Deen is totally innocent BUT Nike took a lot longer to un-endorse Tiger than than the Food Network did to drop Paula.
  • Movies that put all their best scenes in the trailer.  Argghh..the movie most guilty of this that comes to mind is “This is Forty” which should have been named “This is Boring”  OR celebrities like Will Smith, who made the movie “After Earth” solely to showcase his son who spent the entire movie running around with a constipated look on his face ( disclaimer: I am NOT a Sci Fi fan and my husband is and he thought it was an ok-good movie.
See....the most honest scene in the film..This IS boring!

See....the most honest scene in the film..This IS boring!

  • And last but not least are magazine subscripiton renewal notices.  Now they start coming before the first issue of the magazine arrives.  Or heaven forbid I should cancel a subscription.  Dear Oprah..Please don’t take this personally but I DID cancel my subscription in January.  I hear more from you than Publishers Clearing House.  So one last final time NO I DO NOT WANT TO RESUBSCRIBE!

OMG  I AM  Maxine and Oprah forced me to use all Upper Case Letters.

Well I guess I could do worse..but if Kim names her next baby “South” I’m breaking out the blue hair dye and making Maxine my new BFF!!


It’s Thoughtful Thursday! Let your heart do the traveling!

Hoping this isn’t a repeat but if it’s a good one!  Thanks Carole!!  You do have a Brave, Open Heart!

A dear friend of mine, Carole MacLean, shared this quote with me.  I started to write about it and then realized it can stand on its own because in one short sentence it sums up Thoughtful Thursday.

If you think sending a handwritten letter, no matter how long or short won’t make a difference then remember this quote.

To send a letter is a good way to go somewhere without moving anything but your heart. Phyllis Theroux

How about we all move our heart today?


Ready, set, GO make it a Thoughtful One!


My Relationship Status with the Treadmill: “It’s Complicated”

Dear Treadmill,

I need you, I want you, I dislike you intensely.  You are always there for me, calling me, acting coy.  You whisper sweet encouragement like:

  • I will go as fast or as slow as you want
  • Your running wish is my command
  • I have a fan for you and lots of buttons for you,the gadget queen
  • I will keep you warm and dry
  • I will hold your water and make it available at any time
  • Music or TV..whatever you wish
  • If I fall ill my friend is right next to me as my back up

So I succumb to your sweet whispers as it rains or snows or even in the dark of night.  And you…


  • confusing buttons that make me go faster than I want
  • boredom…the scenery never changes
  • throwing me off when I dared to lose concentration
  • throwing me off again when I dared to remove my jacket and forgot to keep running
  • video taping the whole thing ( I think you have a deal with American Funniest Home Videos)
  • no sympathy for my scraped hands and knees ( see above)  I swear I heard you chuckle


And yet I can’t resist going back and giving,you, Miss Treadmill, another try.  We are getting better at getting along.

You haven’t thrown me off the last couple of times ( my knees and  hands thank you), I’m learning to push the right buttons and have outsmarted you by staying focused ( instead of being like the dog who suddenly sees “squirrel”)

After looking for a you tube video to post to this blog I now understand your reluctance to be nice.

I found people who abused  you by:

  • running on you with high heels ( yeah..I’d throw her off too in a nano second and you did )
  • trying to bike on you instead of run
  • running drunk ( no explanation needed on what happened there)
  • trying to jump on after you are already running at full speed
  • playing hopscotch on you and your friends ( jumping from one running treadmill to the next)

Here’s a link to some of  “those”  treadmill abusers:

So despite your attitude problem, Miss Treadmill, I will continue to try but in the meantime I have bad news.

The open road will always be my main squeeze…oh yeah!


It’s Thoughtful Thursday! Technology Saved the Day

I often say I am just tech savvy enough to be dangerous even though my husband calls me the “gadget queen”.  I also  have to admit that I have been resisting lazy about learning all the bells and whistles for each gadget.

Despite my laziness I find myself being so very grateful that technology has saved  me time energy and a little angst when my brain cells aren’t connecting.

My car, for one,  is way smarter than I am and has saved me from locking my keys inside at least 100 times.

I also have many tech savy friends that have saved me from self induced tech trouble.

And now, despite my resistance, ( and being a tad sentimental)  I have to admit that it may be time to give the old address book the heave ho.  It is worn and tattered and seen its better days. It also has a mind of its own and goes missing for days on end.


I realized this when some of  my tech savvy friends came to the rescue of  “Thougthful Thursdays”.  They did it  without even realizing it..just doing what came naturally to them ( tech wise).

A life raft was thrown my way long before I was in danger of drowning.


I wish ( would have made an awesome blog post!)  but no.. just a happy accident.

I was writing notes for  “Thoughtful Thursdays” and wishing I had my address book with me when a light bulb went off.  The last time I was with these friends we exchanged addresses, e-mails, birthdays etc. via SMART PHONES!

There I was in the oh so comfortable Jiffy Lube waiting room writing cards wishing I could mail them on my way home and like magic two of my brain cells collided and I checked my phone and there were all the addresses I needed.


Mission accomplished.  Stamps purchased at the grocery store, note cards breeding indiscirminatly in my desk, and my purse, addresses on smart phone, pen hiding in the grunge of my car, purse, couch cushions or on occasion at my desk.  No excuses not to write these notes anymore!

Thoughtful Thursday gadget style with a little old school thrown in for good measure.  The best of both worlds wouldn’t you say?

So go out and make it a Thoughtful uber smart car, phone, computer and running watch told me to remind you!


Run for the dream..just don’t run out of gas!

This past Sunday I completed my third half marathon and the only one I have attempted in warm weather.  The weather and Vitamin P ( procrastination) are the two biggest obstacles to my running.

I always come away  from these races with some good insights, a few chuckles and some new ( although often temporary) friends.

Here is what I learned from the Run for the Dream Half Marathon:

  • Don’t run out of gas.  I mean this in the truest sense.  Nothing like rolling into the parking lot on fumes!
  • Just glance at the weather predictions and I mean just look at whatever lame drawing they know the ones with the clouds, sun, rain drops etc.  DO NOT READ the prediction of 81% humidity ( aka sauna)  Not the kind of adenaline rush I wanted the night before especially since I think it should be 65, sunny and with a light breeze for EVERY race.  ( a girl can wish can’t she?)
  • Remember not to break my rule of NOT looking at the race course and description before the race  Yup I looked and then remembered my mantra “Ignorance about hills  IS bliss!”

Okay..enough of the don’ts are some aha’s.  Some are new and some are just things that have come to past over time.

  • No matter how good I feel or how strong I finish I always look like hell at the finish line..and that is okay.  I will never figure out how some women finish the race and still look fresh. And yes I am jealous!!
  • I like smaller races.  This one had between 2500-3000 runners.  Sounds like alot but not really. I’ve done a 10k with 40,000 of my closest friends and decided that 3,000 sweaty people is enough for me.
  • Go for the water even if its to pour it down my back or front.  The back is for the cooling effect..the front..well it gives a more dramatic display that I am actually working and sweating more intensely than I really am !
  • Don’t forget to have I am at mile 8.5 having some fun with the local parrotheads..I think if it had been a real bar half the runners would have quit right there…:)IMG_0071
  • Have a plan if  I end up being the very last person hasn’t happened so far but the plan is in place.

Ready for this?

If I am going to have a police car following me becasue I am bringing up the rear then its time to do the ole princess wave, keep smiling and be grateful that I am at least running a tad faster than the police car or that some people may , possibly,  think I am famous.

Yeah right…

Seriously..I would work that bit so hard people would be cheering..or maybe the volunteers would be cheering that they can finally go home!

I  loved this race for the name alone. Who wouldn’t like to “Run for the Dream”?  Maybe I will just pick my races for the name from now on..hey works for me.

I do like to set an intention for each race long before the race day.  This time it was for a young adult named Jeremy and his family.  Jeremy had a pool accident last August that left him paralyzed from the chest down.  He is working hard to regain the use of his arms and legs.  His whole family runs for the dream EVERY day.  They could map out a course but hills and mountains and obstacles that they must tackle pop up when they least expect it.

Thinking of them and how they face their “run” everyday with faith, grace and smiles motivated me to get my rear end out the door and on the run.  I thought about them, prayed for them and thanked them for  letting me be a witness to their strength.

So Jeremy..I almost ran out of gas before the race even started..but I got there, I started, I finished and I thought of you.  May you continue on your race for YOUR dream and may all your future hills level out as you run your own race to recovery.

Oh and guess turned out Sunday was Jeremy’s birthday ( I had no idea)…Happy Happy Birthday Jeremy..May all YOUR dreams come true!